Who Will be in Your Wedding Party?

Choosing Your Wedding Party

Planning your wedding is supposed to be an exciting occasion where you gather together with family and friends to celebrate the love you’ve found in your new spouse. But sometimes choosing who will do what in your wedding creates unwanted drama and heartache for the couple. Here are some tips to consider when you’re choosing who will be in your wedding party.

Choose who means the most to you

If you made every casual friend or distant relative a bridesmaid, all of your guests would be standing up at the altar. Choose the people you’ll be happiest to see standing next to you when you say your “I dos.”. Whether that is a close friend from childhood or a new friend from college, they can all be a part of the pack.

Choose who will be the most supportive

Ask yourself if the people you’re choosing are going to be the support system you need to get through one of the most nerve-wracking days of your life. Is the person going to have their dress or tux in hand on the day of the wedding? Are they going to tell you everything’s running smoothly so you can relax? Think about the day of the wedding and imagine how that person might conduct themselves.

Try not to let hurt feelings affect you

There are going to be people close to you who aren’t going to be chosen to be in the wedding party. Most will probably accept your decision with grace and respect, but there might be a person or two who get their feelings hurt when they aren’t picked for an important role. You can tell them you’re sorry you can’t put everyone in the wedding, but don’t go out of your way to make them feel better. This is your day, and if they are really your friend they will get over it.

Do what makes you happy

Just because your cousin had seven bridesmaids, three flower girls and two ring-bearers doesn’t mean that you have to have that many people in your wedding party. If you only have two close friends and no young friends or relatives to play the part of flower girl or ring-bearer, then skip the traditional elements. And if your closest friend is a guy or your brother, then have a Man of Honor instead of a Maid of Honor. You want to look back on your wedding day and remember that it was one of the best days of your life. So, do what makes you (and your spouse-to-be) happy.

**Photo by Loved Memories Photography